Get some sense.

I'm going to start this out by saying I'm sorry. Not for everything that I'm about to say, but for being a part of a generation of young women that completely lack self-respect, and find this behavior to be acceptable. It's disgusting, embarrassing, and should not be tolerated. This should all be common sense. Here we go.

• Facebook and Twitter

-The bar/club/party pictures: It is not cute when you hold your solo cup level with your face. It takes less time to just put the cup or bottle down and take a picture you wouldn't hesitate to frame for grandma than it does to gather and pose with every available cup/bottle/cigarette available within a 500 ft radius. We understand, you're in high school or college and probably drinking. But it's really unnecessary to reiterate that you're consuming large amounts of alcohol and smoking by documenting it on social media. 

-Bathroom Mirror Pictures: Whatever, y'all are going to take them and most aren't that bad. But what's embarrassing is when you hike your leg up on the bathroom counter and lean over so that your cleavage would make Pamela Anderson herself envious. Gross.
-Bathing Suit Pictures: Everybody has some, I've got some. They're fun at the pool, layin out, and definitely at the beach. But don't sit there posing in the bathroom mirror uploading one every single day and then whine about not being able to find a nice guy that respects you. I AM LAUGHING AT YOU. And judging from the facebook post I made about this last week, so are about forty other people.
-The infamous boobs out, butt out, hand on hip so I look skinnier pose: You have 109 likes on your photo NOT because you are pretty but because you're posing like a contortionist and sticking out every available asset as far as possible. That cannot be comfortable, for you or for the teachers you added on facebook from last year.
-Picture captions: Oh my gosh I am so embarrassed just reading some of them... *nAtural Beauty..* HEhehe I'm a N3RD. Look at my glasses! SPR!NG BREAK B0D. ~~~~imperfect~~~~ .....quit that.
-"Oh mah y'alll GAahhhh I am sewwwwwwwwww drink!!!!!!!!! Sh00tttttss for everywhere LOSTMY SHOEs": Stop it. Now. No need to elaborate on this. And if you text this to people, be decent enough to apologize for texting them hieroglyphics the next morning.

• Boys.

I wish there were enough words to say how disappointed I am to hear some of these stories about girls. This just saddens me more than it aggravates me. If your parents didn't raise you not to sleep around, and if you read the following, you no longer have an excuse for your actions. Not that you really had one in the first place, but you've now been made aware of what you're doing, and if you continue to behave in the same manner the only person you have to blame is yourself.

-Just because a guy sleeps with you does NOT mean he likes you or even thinks you're remotely attractive. He texts you with smiley faces and calls you beautiful because he knows you're going to believe it. Yeah, it's sad that guys are like this, but you don't have to be a genius to figure out it's an act. I know that guys can be so manipulative but there's a reason that one of the first words you learned growing up was "no." So if you fall for it, stop lying to yourself, messaging him on facebook, texting him, etc. You only think that he's interested. You're under the impression that he's attracted to you and flirting with him will bring him back for more. But the only thing he's coming back for is to sleep with you. So stop. Cut off communication, put on some clothes, and move on with your life. Make a guy prove to you that you're different and worth more than that. And don't come at me saying that's hard to do. All you have to do to prove it is literally nothing. Don't sleep with him. If he still comes back, he genuinely likes you. COMMON SENSE Y'ALL.

-Sleeping around with an entire fraternity or friend group does not mean you're popular. It does not mean you're living the college girl dream. It does not mean they sit around the house talking about how you're sooo hot. It does not mean you're the frat sweetheart. But it does mean you're the slampiece. And they do sit around the house and talk about you. But you'd be embarrassed to hear what they're saying.

-Incessantly trying to get the attention of someone in a relationship: What the heck is your problem? You're embarrassing yourself to no end. And honestly you're disrespecting yourself more than the two people in that relationship, because you're allowing yourself to be a target. And if you're helping a guy cheat on a girl, I'm embarrassed for you. That doesn't make you "powerful" or better than his girlfriend. I mean he obviously doesn't care that much about his girlfriend, but he cares about you even less because he is still with her. You are second. And even if you are acting like a slut, you deserve better than to be second.

You do not need to cover your Facebook and Twitter with uncouth and trashy things to get attention. Unless you want attention from uncouth and trashy people. You do not need to sleep with every guy to feel like you're worth something, because the man that sees you for all of your worth is the one who created you. 

There is so much more I want to say but I'll leave it at that. Stop making a fool of yourself and leading the rest of society to believe that all girls ages 13-20 are like this. Because we aren't, and you're making all of us look bad.


****After being contacted and asked why I am so judgemental, I'd like to add this: I'm not judging, I clearly stated that I think girls like this deserve more than the negative feedback you get from guys. If I was judging I would have no sympathy. That's the purpose of this post. To make y'all aware that you are doing it to yourself.  If you want to go make a fool of yourself and scream YOLO as loud as possible, be my guest. But don't sit there and cry about not being respected or liked or about how you have an STD. That is all.